As a mom, walking through the many seasons of motherhood that life throws at you can often feel isolating and lonely. You feel like you’re too busy to connect with friends, too consumed with diapers and feeding schedules to make it to Bible study, at the baseball field every night of the week, or just trying to keep up with the rhythms of life while working full time and managing a house. The good news is that you’re not alone. Like you, I have walked through my own season of feeling alone in motherhood just after my twins came along. As I battled my way through long days of taking care of two babies straight out of the NICU, a toddler and a four-year-old I looked around one day and realized that I was missing out on relationships that I had formed and I so desperately needed community. I looked to Jesus for the strength I needed to get me through those lonely days, and I slowly found my way back to the friendships that I had left behind when life got crazy.
Jesus set an example for us on how to have real and meaningful relationships with others. God tells us in Genesis that He did not design man to be alone, and He designed us to live in a community with others. He desires to see us worship together, cry together, celebrate together, and walk through the ups and downs of life together.
Why do we need community?
- Proverbs 27:17 tell us that just as iron sharpens iron, so does one man sharpen another. We make ourselves better by surrounding ourselves with a village.
- Romans 1:12 reminds us that we should be encouraging each other often, especially in our faith.
- 1 Corinthians 12:20 says that, “As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.” We have the task of helping each other out using our strengths to provide help in another person’s weakness.
- In Romans 12, Paul tasks us with using our gifts to help others. What is a gift God has given you that you could use to help a fellow mother going through a difficult time?
- Hebrews 3:13 clearly shows us that we should find others in community who will help us resist temptation and not fall into sin.
The enemy hates community and wants to see you do things on your own. As we walk through life with Christ, He promises that He will never ignore us or exclude us. He will never cast shame on us. He always listens and cares. He challenges us to be confident, gospel-teaching mothers. He never lies to us, and we can always feel safe in His arms.
If you don’t know where to start to find your village, Jennie Allen recommends in her book, “Find Your People,” that you should find a church and start serving. Serving provides a way for you to meet and connect with people and to be part of something good. By serving, you will find people who need you and people that you need. If you feel like you’re walking through motherhood alone, know there is a place for youto find connections and form meaningful relationships that will point you to Christ, and we want to help you find it.